Destiny Part 2…

Realizing all the events, all the people who have come and gone, all the good and bad things, gets you to a place of peace.  That is where I am today, at peace.  I look back on this year with so much love and gratitude for all that I have gone through.  Knowing the lonely journey I took to go deep inside of me, to find out who I am, why I am here and what I do with it all, has been something I could only wish for every single person.  Self love, self awareness, and absolute love for this world and the people in it, is a feeling I never thought I would reach.  It takes so much work, but what I found out, it was work that sets you up for a life time of joy, happiness, and pure love.  To let go of old habits, feelings and the way you view people and events is a freeing feeling, to honestly let the universe, my angels and spirits guide me to where I need and meant to be.  

So much has happened in the last few weeks, things that have challenged me beyond any challenges I thought I would go through.  Some that would make the average person fall down and surrender to it, but since I am in a place of being spiritually connected, I have realized my absolute truth about what I am meant to do.  Everyone of us can see someone suffer, think that is sad or something needs to be changed, but how many actually take that step to start the ball rolling?  To actually say I am going to start this?  I am going to make this change?  I was that person before who thought things, but never acted, never thought “I” could do anything to change something, someone, to make that difference.  I have far to much fire and passion in me to look the other way, to say “someone needs to do something”, I am that someone, I am going to make that change.  I don’t think of myself as any better than anyone else, never have I nor will I, I just know now why I am here and all that has been happening to me, to my girls, was the universe saying, “This is it”, “This is why”.

I have written about mental health, my sister who took her own life, my older daughter with depression and anxiety and now my youngest who also is dealing with this, among other things.  I can not sit back and watch them go through this, wonder why it is, have people judge or not understand, not have schools who have nothing to offer kids in coping with life, parents who don’t know how to parent…  Through everything in the last month and a half, I have realized my focus, my passion, my fire.  Anyone who has known me, knows my 3 kids are my absolute passion in life, they are the reason and inspiration for so many things that I am and do.  For what my girls have been going through, I know they are not alone, that there are many kids out there, who are dealing with similar feelings, thoughts, and questions.  I also know, not everyone kid out there has a parent or parents who are educated in knowing what to do or how to be, I know schools think of our kids as a number, a statistic, concentrating only on test scores, not being a good human. I know kids are not nice to each other, parents are not nice to parents, when does that stop?  We model for our kids…  I have never been in this place that I find myself now…  A place of so much FIRE, PASSION and LOVE.  I want to make this world a better place for so many reasons, not just for my kids, but for yours.  I want change, I want action, I want so much more than what there is today.

Sometime in early January I will be launching my new blog name, my website, my creation with my girls.  I am beyond excited that they want to help and change so much in life for others, for the fact of all they have gone through.  They see it, go through it, they are fearless now and when you let go of fear anything you want and set your mind to happens.

AmazingU…   Just Be U.        That is all the world wants of us.

This is one of my faves…  How we should all live life.  Why does everyone want to hide from being AmazingU?
My inspirations

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What is a Life Coach and why do you have one???

So this is a different post than I normally do, but one that I really wanted to talk about as it has changed my life in so many important ways!  Almost a year ago, I was in a place where I knew I wanted and needed something more in my life, but I wasn’t exactly sure what that was.  I knew I didn’t need a therapist or someone to talk to, but I wanted someone to show me how to get more out of my life, to learn what it was that I was meant to do here on this earth.  I honestly can not even tell you were I heard about a life coach, but I thought why not?  So I asked a friend of mine if she knew of someone….  And in a matter of two weeks I was meeting Nina, my angel, my friend, my soul sister.  I would have never thought in a million years that I would be who I am and where I am today, which is a person who is awaken to life, who knows their soul purpose and is on the right path, the one I was meant to be on.  

Before I tell you what Nina says her job role is, and what exactly she does, I want to tell you in my words what she has done for me, how she has truly changed my life in so many ways, ways that I never thought was possible.  I went to her with an open heart and an open mind, ready to learn and to do really whatever I needed to do to get my life were I wanted it, even though at the time I had NO idea were that was. I had always believed since I was little that I was meant to be something in this life, might sound totally weird, but I knew when I saw her I was not on the right path, that somewhere along the way I went astray.  Nina has been the key to me finding my soul purpose, what I was meant to do here on this earth, why I was put here in the first place.  To some who don’t believe that, I say, you have not be awaken yet to life, but for those who have, it is the most amazing feeling you could have.   Nina’s role has been one of a loving supportive person, who cares and wants the ultimate best for me!  She has designed different plans, ways, to get me to realize my passion, to learn what my purpose is here, as well as developed my spiritual side which has brought me so much peace, closure and excitement for life.   She has challenged me in ways that no one has, allowed me to look and learn at  so many things clearer, always letting me get to the place I need to be in my own time and own way.  She has introduced me to so many amazing teachings, that I ultimately pass on to my kids.  I would say she is one of a kind, she invests so much time, energy and love into each of her clients, I wonder sometimes how she does it, but reality is when you LOVE, our PASSIONATE and doing your SOUL purpose, it does not feel like work and never have I wondered about any of that, it comes through each time I see her, each text I receive, each email.  She is probably one of the few, real, honest and trusting people I have ever met in my life.  There may be different life coaches out there, but I know Nina was the one for me she is a holistic and spiritual coach with so many credentials behind her, so much to learn from her, each time, each day I am truly amazed. 

From Nina Roberts Salveson, DscM, MA, CPPC, Bold Soul Life:  Soul Life Coaching is an integrative journey in which the coach and clients are equal partners.  My coaching is holistic and spiritual, meaning that my intention is to assist and guide people into the most authentic aspects of their humanness.  Only through our authenticity and acceptance of ourselves can we create a life that transcends our previous limits, so that we can create and live the life we were born to live.  Spiritual Life Coaching is a practice and a process that utilizes a specific approach to coaching that is designed to facilitate and support a deeper awareness and acceptance of who you are as a unique and divine individual.  As an intuitive and holistic/spiritual coach and healer, I view the challenges that we encounter as a synchronous opportunity for expansion and transformation.  Healing inner blocks at a spiritual level enables us to progressing miraculous ways by drawing on inner resources we don’t yet realize we have.   From a spiritual perspective, there are no limits to what is possible.  Our coaching goal is to help clients achieve emotional and professional satisfaction by guiding and supporting them towards the creation of a healthy integrated lifestyle of values, choices, accountability and responsibility.  

Five illuminating services my spiritual intutive healing coaching provides:

  1. Guide clients to REALLY KNOW and believe in themselves as spiritual beings having a physical experience, and who are here on earth to evoke and expand into a more expanded and authentic expression of themselves.
  2. Mentor clients to take control of their lives.  Most people are running on auto-pilot, controlled by what they have been taught to believe and what others expect of them.  For their magnificence to blossom, they have to take personal responsibility and control, access the spiritual power that resides within, and change course.  This requires faith, trust and belief in oneself.
  3. Teach clients to understand their life purpose.  Spiritually, each of us is here for a reason, with magnificent gifts to share.  Learning about ourselves and learning to live in harmony with our life’s purpose is the main reason that we are here.
  4. Assist clients to realize their purpose, which involves creating a blueprint and deliberate and intentional taking action to realize their dreams.  As they do this, life truly takes on a new meaning.
  5. Uplift clients to live to the fullest they can feel excited about being alive each day.  The essence of my soul coaching and healing is help people learn to journey inward to life as a sprititaul being having a human experience, an ti discover and embrace the brilliance of their true identities, and to bring spirit fully into form.  This approach is holistic, integrating the body, emotions, mind and spirit.

So there you have it, for all who have asked and wonder who and why I have a life coach!!!  If you are at a point in your life were you are asking “Is there more to my life”?  ” Am I being or doing what I was meant to do”?  I knew I wanted more in my life, I knew I wanted to change how I was living and being, making this step, making that call, was the BEST thing I ever did for ME!

If you would like to get into touch with Nina, here is her info:  Nina@boldsoul.life

I share this pic as these 3 beings are a big part of why I chose to do this.  To show them and teach them there is so much more to life, always a positive and to do and love who you are and what you are meant to do.

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So it’s my birthday, bring on the BEST year yet!!!

Sagittarius Fire sign:  Curious, energetic, open mind and philosophic view motivates them to wander around the world in search of the meaning of life.  Sagittarius is extrovert, optimistic and enthusiastic, and likes changes.  They are able to transform their thoughts into concrete actions and they will do anything to achieve their goals.

Since I was a little girl, I knew their was a whole big world out there, always dreaming, wondering and knowing that I would be who I was meant to be someday.   Life has a way of happening, dreams, passions, and your meaning of being here get thrown off course, but, lessons are learned, and you grow… I look back on this last year and see how far I have come, grown and gotten back on my path and found my meaning, my purpose.  I have not yet traveled the world, but I do know that will happen someday soon.  All that I have been creating, working towards and doing is all coming into place.  This is the year, were my dreams come to life…  I feel blessed for the year I had, one that taught me so much about myself, others and my endless passion for change.  For all I have endured in my life, I take as blessings, all the difficult times, I take as lessons, all the love that I gave and received, I take as gifts.  Patience is the one thing I have learned this last year, nothing you create with passion and love happens over night, instead you need to go through all the experiences to get to the place were it is all ready to be unfolded.   

The lessons I learned this year:  Some people will never change, so don’t waste your energy on them.  The past is the past, leave it there!  Don’t care what others say or feel about you, as long as you are living true to yourself that is all that matters.  Lastly, LOVE, that is what makes the world go round!

46…  I have always believed age is just a number, it does not define you and has NO limit on what you can achieve.   With  positive thoughts, people, and my knowing purpose, I could not be more excited for this year!

Today my kids were here, along with Mason’s girlfriend, and Leighton’s boyfriend, we ordered food and made Xmas cookies.  They did of course make me cry with the love that they showed and the gifts that they gave.  Mason knows my love of music and our going to concerts, so they all put their money together and got me tickets to the New Kids On The Block and said I had to take one of my friends as I rarely go out.  Seriously can NOT wait for this!  Just when I think I could not feel anymore blessed, they show me wrong 🙂

Birthdays are not about gifts, the number you are turning, or cake.  It is celebrating your life, the one that God gave you ( or whoever you believe did), to live in your truth and purpose and count your many blessings all around you.

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Mason and Bella with Georgie and Honey
With a few hundred tries…  This was the best one 🙂
Ended the night at a tree lighting.
Me and Mason 🙂

XO-Rach

 

Destiny… Do you believe in it? Part 1

 

Destiny: the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.  The hidden power believed to control what will happen in the future, fate.

When you think about your life and all that has happened to today, do you think it was all destiny?  The good and the bad?  Or do you believe you have good luck or bad luck?

I don’t believe in good or bad luck, I don’t think anyone is predestined  to have either.  I believe if you are good, try your best, good things can happen, but that also requires work, having belief in yourself and listening to the universe.  Bad luck, I think every single person would say they have experienced times in their lives were they feel the universe is against them, but reality is that means you are not living as the way you should be, that you are missing or not taking what the universe has been trying to give you to succeed.   Life is meant to have good and bad times, that is the only way we can grow, learn and realize our destiny.

I know everything this last month with Pressley is for a reason, a purpose, that each one of us in this is being stretched, to look inside, to look outside and see what is really the meaning of it all. 

What is the universe trying to tell me?  Why is all of this happening?  I could question it till I am blue in the face, but that would get me nowhere, instead I believe that I will find my answer, that it will come to me, as a sign from the universe, guiding me to what my next step is.  Truly seeing why my girl had to go through all she has gone through.  

Yes, I totally believe in destiny, I believe every single moment, event, good and bad happenings  have all been apart of my path, my destiny.  I like thinking of it this way, for the  reason, it brings me peace in knowing, that it all had and continues to have a purpose in my life, my path, my destiny here on this earth.  

I know soon, SO soon, my answer will be here and my progress on this earth will grow and change will happen.  

So do you believe in destiny?  Do you listen to what the universe sends you?  Do you believe???

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You can’t see their faces, but these two little fur babies were for sure apart of my destiny. Each with there story of how they were meant to be ours.

XO-Rach

 

 

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Traditions… Why do we have them?

After just celebrating Thanksgiving and with Christmas approaching, (way to fast I might add) I have realized how some traditions serve a purpose for a time and place and some just fade away…

Last year was my firsts of everything being divorced, so reality, everything was just different period.  Not in a bad or sad way, just nothing was the same as it had been for the last 22 years, but when I think about life till this point, so many things have changed from year to year.

Growing up, I spent holidays with family, sometimes going to the same house, eating the same food, watching the same people have the same fights. :). I can totally recall my grandparents and my own parents fighting over when the turkey is done or if the mashed potatoes were too lumpy.  My mom would make the same cranberry salad for Thanksgiving and a pistachio one for Christmas, they were staples.  When I was young we would go cut our Christmas tree down, something that I brought to my marriage and we did for our kids each year.  I started Black Friday shopping when my older kids were young, like I brought a double stroller with me young!  This is something that I have done each year and Leighton joined me once she didn’t believe in Santa anymore.  Last year was Pressley’s first year going with us and yesterday us 3 plus Mason’s girlfriend all went out shopping.   

Traditions to me are a year to year thing, I honestly like doing and trying new things,  I know I don’t like feeling stuck having to do things, because that is the way they always were done.  Last year we did not cut a tree down, instead me and Press went to Walmart and bought a white tree with white lights on it.  It kinda reminds me of a Charlie Brown tree, but it stands for what life is about now, which is about things changing all the time, not good not bad, but being able to go with the flow, doing what feels right in the moment.  This is something I want my kids to be able to do with anything in life, to know that YOU get to do what feels right for you at the time.  I do not want them to believe you have to do things the same way year after year, that you can change, tweak, do whatever it is that you want to do.  Life is always changing and I think that is one thing that people have a hard time, going with the flow of life.  Traditions, don’t always work year to year, you might not be in the same place, with the same people, or feel the same way…

This Thanksgiving was different than last years, it was even better!  Mason wanted to help cook, so we decided on stir fry and a creamy risotto asparagus.  Yes, not a normal combination, but I have to say it was the BEST food ever, but even with that, it was the memories that were created.  Having my kids and Mason’s girlfriend there, chopping, cooking and talking are the things that mean more than any tradition.  I keep telling my kids next year is a big change for all of us, I will be moving, Mason will be transferring to the U in January living on campus, and Leighton will be starting college in the fall, maybe in Florida.  So these times, moments are SO precious and important for all of us, these are the memories that will bond us even stronger, to help us all in the next chapters of our lives.  I don’t know what next year will be, but I know we will all find our way back together and keep creating more moments.

I did make my moms cranberry salad as Leight insisted on it, so I guess that is one tradition that made it. :). 

Chef Mason and Bella

Leight, Bella and Mason… Press did not get in any pics 😦
The finished product!

Traditions should be allowed to change whenever they do not serve a purpose in your life.  I don’t believe you need to do the same things you did as a child or what society says is the way.  Look at your traditions, do they make you feel happy each year?  Or are they more of a “We have to do this” because that is what we always do. Remember, you create whatever it is you want in life, it can change and evolve each year.  The most important thing in life is LOVE what you are doing and who you are doing it with. 

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Attachments…What are yours?

Attachment: A feeling that binds one to a person, thing, cause, ideal or the like.

One thing I have learned since losing my parents and getting a divorce is how I do not attach myself to things anymore…

 I was 40 years old before I truly learned what attachments were and learned how they were limiting me from living a soulful, purposeful, happy life.  When my parents died, I was the one left in their house, with all of their things to weed through.  What I wanted to keep, what to sell, what to give away.  My mom collected and hung onto everything and anything!  Honestly, it was by far the most overwhelming task I had ever undertaken.  I will never forget sitting there in their house, looking around and wondering, what do I do, were do I start.  I felt at that moment I didn’t have an answer, if I didn’t keep everything of theirs, the memory of them would die and go away, that is what I was making myself think and believe, that letting go of THEIR stuff, was literally erasing them,  A program that was taught to me from a young age, objects, places, people you need them all to be happy.   A light turned on inside of me, I started looking at all of this through the eyes of my children and if I was the one who died and what would they do.  I knew right then and there, that A. I would never want to have all this stuff for them to worry about and B, that is all it was stuff, THEIR stuff, NOT mine.  So I started taking things and looking at them, did I have a memory of this, why would this be important to have in my life, what would it give to me?  I started to realize people attach themselves to things, to cling to memories of a time or place or even a person.   Reality being, these are just things, they do not hold that kind of power, we have just made ourselves believe they do.  I feel the most beautiful thing our body has is the power of our mind, heart and soul, with these abilities, we create memories, that when we close our eyes, or imagine back to a time, we can see those moments.  Thus, we don’t need to hang on to things, that have no feelings, carry no emotions, we have it all right inside of us.   I managed to clean out their house, it was still a process, not an easy one, but I did it and I came out with only the things that truly mattered, recipes, ( because no one else would know how to make things that grandpa and grandma did), pictures,  my moms jewelry, and some furniture that we would use at our own house.  Looking at an object, seeing it is as it is makes things clearer, a vase is a vase, doesn’t matter who owned, a house is just a house, all that matters is who is living with you in a space.  Fast forward to 2 years ago, I was in the midst of packing up what I wanted, I literally took nothing from that house, not that it was bad memories, but I had NO need for it, it was just stuff, that is all.  It made moving a much easier task, not attaching myself to an object, I already had the memories to look back on.

This is something I have been teaching my kids about, teaching them, to live in their moments, not relying on an object to do that.  Their dad is selling the family house, I know it is sad for them, but I think they are understanding it is just a structure, yes, lots of life lived there, but that is all inside of them, forever…

Take a look around you, what do you hold on to?  Why?  

I hope this makes you think.  I am not saying my way is the right way, I just know what I have been through and what has helped me live a happier, freer life.  Happy Thanksgiving to everyone, live in your moments tomorrow with the people you are surrounded with, that is the true blessing and how you should be living each day!

These are my blessings, each day memories are created and stored.

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Why is it so hard to wrap our heads around death?

I drive by my parents townhome, well what used to be, at least once everyday, as they had lived that close to me.  I started thinking the other day, how it is just so amazing that people are here one minute and then can be gone the next.  Sometimes we know it is going to happen and other times there is no warning or little at all.  I have thought about my dad, as he was the most active one compared to my mom, he was always at the store, station or someone’s house talking about cars.  I think about those people, he sometimes saw everyday, people I did not know and wonder if they have thought “What happened to George”?  Like he was here every single day or called every week and then there is nothing, forever and they have no idea what happened to him…

Have we been programmed from our ancestors to take death as the absolute ending?  Is this why it is so hard for so many to not be able to bounce back from someone dying?  I think about this as I just find this topic really interesting  as I have experienced loss many times and for the fact that I have found a way to be positive, to take it all as a gift and to know there is SO much more waiting once we leave this earth.

I think about when I was growing up and remembering how my dad was when his own dad died, it was the first time I ever saw him cry.  For me, this was a traumatizing event, so much sadness, regrets that my dad had and just pure torture for the loss of his dad.  This is for sure why I feared death for so many years.  I lived in fear, worrying about my own parents dying, losing the people I loved around me and this carried with me into my early adult years.  To witness how people react to death is a blog on its own.  Everyone of us is different in the way we think, feel, react, but what is the same is we all suffer a loss.  I don’t like to think one loss is greater than another, but a parent losing a child is incomprehensible than a child losing a parent.  I have to believe though, it is all in the same, that we have to learn life without the person.  When you think back to all the generations, some where along the way this became a fearful thing, because I do know there was once a time when death was not viewed as it is today.  There was much more of a spiritual tone with dying, maybe call it a reason or a purpose?  I do believe everything in our lives happen for a reason, you may not know it till later, but if you find the strength and look for it, it will be there.  

I know today, losing my parents was a beautiful gift that they gave me, for the fact they gave me another chance to live another life, to live it differently, with no fear.  They have allowed me to become the person I was always meant to be, taught me so much in their death, more than I could have imagined.  So many times I say “Thank you”, for giving me this life, letting me know that death is not a forever thing, it isn’t something to be fearful of, IF you live the way you were meant to.  

I see so many people clinging to the what were’s, what if’s, and the why’s, I feel a sadness for them, as they have not realized, each person who comes into our lives is not meant to be with us forever.  Some people stay for a short time, others longer and some, yes till our last breath.  Each person who enters, teaches us, shows us their gifts, and our a true blessing, even if a relationship ends poorly.  To find meaning in something we do not understand is a way of healing and allowing yourself to view things differently.  To allow yourself to keep moving forward, to change what you can about yourself and knowing the things you can not change and realizing these challenges are also a gift, that makes you grow.  Some may think death is the end, but how do we know that?  Has someone come back to tell you this?

I always thought when I died it would just turn black and that would be it, life was over, no memories to see, nothing to feel, absolutely black.  That is a sad way to look at this and today I believe death puts us in a whole new life.  I know I have angels and spirits around me, you can call me crazy, doesn’t bug me at all, it is what I know to be true.  The fact is they show me all the time they are here, guiding me, giving me signs, and always holding me in their love and light.

Two of my angels…  My absolute fav pic of them.

Always find the light in the dark, joy in the madness, and love in everything you do.

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